Thursday, October 29, 2009

My future magazine article....when lurv takes over...nd it knocks u down...

Hey people!!!
I wrote this listening to
Keri Hilson’s knock you down right after when love takes over – David
Guetta ft. Kelly Rowland. (Hence, the title) Lately I’ve just been on that sad love songs
p. Contrary to what you may think, I have not by any chance ‘fallen in or out of
love’. Not that love is a bad thing, but I think it is extremely overrated. And
can be dangerously unhealthy especially when one of the parties involved ‘falls’ helplessly
for the other and hi/her’s love isn’t exactly reciprocated.

Sometimes I wonder why people even bother to give love a shot after all the countless unhappy endings those before us have had as a result of ‘love’. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against love. I just don’t believe that most people actually understand the feelings they interpret as love. This applies especially to young people. I just don’t get why people just don’t settle for ‘like’. Why do they have to go all the way and profess ‘love’ for their gf or bf. To be honest, I find it rather nauseating when I see 14,15,16 year olds claiming to love their bfs or gfs. There’s nothing wrong in really liking someone. You don’t have to abuse the use of the word ‘love’ for people to take your relationship seriously! It’s funny how people think real life love is just like love in movies and songs.(we wish!)

On the real though, if love were that easy, I’d probably be in love right now sef. Just like this movie Angel eyes; Jim Caviezel falls helplessly in love with J’lo after she saves him from a terrible car crash that kills his wife and his son. Obviously they go through the whole break up and make up stage(like any other book, movie or song!) then finally live happily ever after! I know there are a million more movies like that but believe me, that Angels eyes brought tears to my eyes. I could totally feel their love all the way from where I was sitting on my couch. It felt soooo magical. But then again, it’s a freaking movie! The point of the movie was to give it that effect. My love songs p probably started right after I watched that movie.

Back in the real world, love can be rather discombobulating! There’s this girl I know that loves(or so she thinks) this guy I also know. The problem however is that the guy and her best friend are sooo close it’s hard to tell if the guy likes the best friend as a gf or as a good friend. Also, the best friend isn’t completely sure how she feels about the guy in question. So what does the babe do? Does she flick the love switch in her heart off if she finds out the guy does like(or perhaps love) her best friend? Is it really that easy to just stop loving somebody?

According to some cold-hearted bastards, it is! Just the other day, I was watching Dr.90210. A lady requesting for a tummy tuck told us her story: she loved a guy. The guy also loved her. They got married. Their love was so magical and beautiful. They had a baby together. One day, when the baby was only a few months old, the lady found a text message from the guy’s mistress on his phone. She confronts him. He apologizes and decides that he’s choosing the mistress over his wife. He simply didn’t love her anymore. Just like that! After getting her pregnant(losing her figure and everything), he just left!

I felt so bad for her! I just can’t imagine how she eventually pulled herself together( if love is as strong as they say it is). Left to me, that kind of rejection should be something you never recover from if you really did love the guy. (only if God intervenes sha).

Even the legendary Romeo and Juliet love story didn’t end happy. As for me, I’d rather just be really fond of a guy, enjoy his company and respect him(and make out with him too! LOL). That way, if he messes up or my fondness just isn’t as it was, no hearts are broken.

It’ll forever remain a mystery to me why some people intently hand over their hearts to others knowing fully well that the future cannot be predicted.
Well people, be sure to love healthily if you must love at all. After all, some people do say “ ‘Tis better to have loved and lost than to have not love at all”. Try not to need your bfs and gfs too much. And don’t for any reason be inspired to be the modern day Romeo or Juliet. Trust me, no love is worth dying for ;)

Be safe! X

Gf- girlfriend

And if you’re interested in sad love songs too, I highly recommend
:Forever & always by Taylor swift(very touching!),I’m only me when I’m with you by Taylor swift, I knew I loved you before I met you by Savage Garden, love like this by Natasha Bedingfield, Part of the list by Ne-yo, Unfaithful by Rihanna and My life would suck without you by Kelly Clarkson